Why is our society so bad when it comes to sex?

In the end, it is because we have endured two or three thousand years of sexual repression.

Over the past several thousand years, Western society has consistently held two extremely harmful fallacies as truths:

Sex is a low-level, animalistic activity, opposed to the spiritual, "higher" human activities;

Men are inherently more sexually attractive than women.

These myths are deeply rooted and still form an important part of our social psychology. It was only in the last few decades that society began to change these myths, but compared to the duration of these myths, this period has been relatively short, so the progress of the transformation has been slow.

The first myth holds that sex is a "lower" and "animalistic" behavior, rather than an "advanced" one. This implies that sex has not been properly studied, has not been taught to young people, has not become a topic for public discussion, and has not been regarded as an integral part of a life that should be developed and enhanced.

This indicates that society's understanding of sexuality is very limited. We have not yet fully realized our sexual potential and have not utilized sex in a positive way to improve our lives.

The second myth holds that men have a stronger sexual desire than women, suggesting an imbalance between the principles of men and women in society. We once had an unhealthy masculine temperament that was overly dominant and aggressive; we also had an unhealthy feminine temperament that was overly weak and dependent. When these two temperaments are so imbalanced, harmony and balance cannot be achieved. If there is a lack of balance between the masculine and feminine temperaments, the masculine temperament will become out of control, and the feminine temperament will become useless.

From a sexual perspective, this means that people have never paid attention to the sexual needs of men and women, how their functions are different yet complementary, and how their union creates miracles. Instead, what we have is a servile female sexuality that serves an overly dominant male sexuality. Women are expected to "serve" the "needs" of their male counterparts: "good girls" fulfill the sexual needs of men by having children, and "bad girls" satisfy men's sexual needs by providing pleasure.

When you combine these two myths together, it will eventually lead to a society that is ignorant of the beauty and benefits of sex; and the individuals within this society will not understand their own potential or how they can utilize their sexuality.

Your society is too radical and full of dissatisfaction, regardless of gender.