"He pulled it out and tried to go back to the front, but as a result, both of us were covered in feces." - I saw this sentence on a mother's forum and it immediately sparked my desire to write this blog post. As a sex educator, sometimes it feels like teaching people how to suck an egg, and people might feel frustrated by these seemingly basic things, but in fact, for many people, this is not a basic thing at all. In sex education, we are not taught how to achieve pleasure, so anal sex is a topic that is rarely mentioned, but behaviors like the one mentioned above can lead to serious consequences, such as infection, and even worse! So, here are the basic knowledge for enjoying anal sex.

Do you want to do it? Why do some people prefer anal sex:

For some people, the anus is the only outlet. This is completely correct. You should never feel pressured to engage in anal sex because of pornography, media, or your partner. Personally, I really enjoy anal sex, sometimes even more than vaginal sex, because it feels naughty, has a sense of novelty and submission, and because it is farther from my clitoris, I can stimulate it more easily than with vaginal sex, which helps me reach orgasm more easily. For AMAB individuals, stimulating the prostate can also bring incredible pleasure. There are many reasons why people like it or want to explore it, but it's worth asking yourself, what are these reasons? Are they the internal reasons that excite you and make you willing to accept them? Or are they the external pressures that make you scared? The decision should always come from within.

To prepare or not to prepare

When it comes to the back door, something unfortunate happens. After all, that's what it's for. Some people can even accept a little trouble and even enjoy it. For others, it's definitely a disaster. If you are the latter, about an hour before playing, use an enema or a flushing device to clean the back door. Usually, this is enough to keep it clean. A healthy diet can also make the back door expel things on time... If you understand what I mean, haha. In the end, if you force something in, there's always the risk of something coming out. So if it really happens, there's no need to blame yourself or humiliate others.

Essential Knowledge

Do not have sexual intercourse from back to front (from the anus to the vagina), also known as "double penetration". This can lead to various infections. Some people even need intravenous antibiotics, and it can be worse. If you really want to do this, be sure to wear a condom and clean and replace the condom between each sexual act.

If you use toys, make sure the bottom of the toy is trumpet-shaped. The buttocks are very good at sucking things into places that cannot be removed. Many people end up being sent to the emergency room and need surgery to remove these items. The trumpet-shaped bottom can prevent this from happening.

Use thick water-based lubricants and use a lot of them. The anus itself does not have lubrication function. Without lubrication, anal sex is not very enjoyable. Make sure the selected lubricant is compatible with any protection measures or toys you are using, because some lubricants will break down silicone and latex.

Start small; don't make your eyes larger than your opening. Gradually increasing the size takes time. One finger, a small training anal plug or some anal beads are good choices.

Communicate your status of sexually transmitted infections with your partner and take protective measures. Sexually transmitted infections can still be transmitted through the anus, so be careful and take preventive measures.

Take it slow; do things slowly, let your body adapt, and stimulate other parts to increase pleasure.

If you need to stop, stop. Don't force yourself to enjoy it under pressure. Anal sex is not suitable for everyone. If you don't like it, don't do it.

There is no need to be either/or. You can enjoy licking the anus, touching the outside, inserting into the vagina, using a vibrating rod, fingers, sex toys or deep trainers. You can enjoy it alone or with your partner. It can be a sensory intimate experience or an interesting part of a Sub Dom game, such as wearing a vagina for a long time as punishment. There are many things you can do, but exploring your body, understanding its pleasures, knowing what you like and how to like it, is always a good thing. I hope this blog can lay the foundation for safe exploration. If you need more in-depth courses, there are video tutorials on my paid website. As always, if you have any questions, I will answer them for you at any time. Please consider subscribing to support me and don't miss the opportunity to learn more.