At first, I thought I had stumbled into pornographic literature. The pornographic stories contained explicit (coarse) descriptive nouns and verbs, and the described sexual acts sounded like pure sexual fantasies because no one had actually experienced the kind of sexual intimacy described here. Or, have you experienced it?

When I was a teenager, I was too naive and never thought that my peers would actually have sexual relations. When I started dating in college, I was a little shy and exuded an opposite temperament from attracting women. I had no confidence at all. I wasn't saying that I wasn't attractive, but the people I dated were all women who were dissatisfied with their own bodies. Only this type of woman could make me feel at ease because women like those in the MH website photos, I simply wasn't worthy of.

I began to believe that women actually don't want to have sex. If they do, it's just their favor, or they would feel guilty for depriving you of your sexual desire. I never thought that women really wanted sex. Pornography is the only one - purely fictional - that shows women who truly desire sex. This caused psychological harm to me, and even thirty years later, and twenty years after marriage, I still bear this harm.

My wife has also avoided sex life for the past twenty years. Our marriage can easily be classified as "sexless marriage". Therefore, we formed a self-reinforcing concept: Women are fundamentally not interested in sex. If they do, it's only their favor, or they would feel guilty for depriving you of your sexual desire. I never thought that women really wanted sex. Pornography is the only one - purely fictional - that shows women who truly desire sex. This caused psychological harm to me, and even thirty years later, and twenty years after marriage, I still bear this harm.

My wife realized an important concept for single men: How to judge whether a woman will be an exciting sexual partner in marriage? Pay attention to every clue she shows about her self-perception. If she feels good about herself, considers herself sexy, and feels comfortable and at ease with herself and her body, then you have a strong clue that your marriage will be happy and fulfilling. Because when you find a woman who feels comfortable and at ease with her body, and is willing to explore her entire body (for example: LLL), then you can safely expect a positive and healthy sex life after marriage.

I had no intention of divorcing my wife because of the sexless marriage. After all, and perhaps we were a perfect match, because I was willing to maintain the marriage, even if a sexually capable man might divorce or cheat on her. It's just that sometimes, when I read stories like yours, I feel sad and angry. I sincerely ask myself: Will you really do what is described in the story? Or are these completely fictional, or exaggerated to arouse sexual desire? Please tell me. May God bless you.

Always remember:

a) Stay humble

b) Ask questions

c) Seek truth

d) Focus on your blessings

e) Stay calm

f) Take the benefits of doubt

g) Lead by example

h) Share wisdom

i) Pursue justice

j) Trust in God no matter what happens.