Recently, we interviewed 268 women who admitted to having an affair, asking them about the reasons for their infidelity. Their responses were diverse. Some found it understandable, while others found it frustrating, or even downright despicable.

When we read their responses, we began to notice the patterns of women's infidelity...

1. My Partner Kept Falsely Accusing Me Of Cheating, So I Finally Did It

A common theme that cropped up was women in relationships where their partners falsely accused them of cheating. These false accusations usually lasted for a sustained time until their girlfriend/wife decided, “Fuck it. If you’re going to make me feel guilty for something I haven’t done yet, then I’m going to do it anyway.” Building trust and avoiding false accusations could be vital if you don’t want to wind up with a cheating wife.

– Because I was being accused of it already and he would not believe me.

– He kept accusing me of cheating, so I finally just did it.

– I only did once and I felt awful, but I was accused for months while I was doing nothing. So I said, ”Fuck it,” and did it.

– Legally, it was infidelity, but it was after I signed my divorce papers. He was accusing me of cheating for so long that I finally did it. No regrets.

– I was tired of being accused of cheating.

– He was locked up and kept accusing me of cheating when I wasn’t.

2. My Partner Cheated First/Revenge Cheating

Another sad but common theme? Women who cheated after their partners cheated on them first.

– ​Emotional disconnection. And because he cheated on me first.

– Our relationship was failing (she cheated on me 2 or 3 times before) while my long-time crush made a move on me.

– It was a rocky relationship and he had cheated several times before so I gave in.

– Because he was cheating on me with his baby mom and not giving me sex.

– He cheated on me, so it was in revenge on my ex. But I was a lot younger then.

– I cheated once. Right before divorce when our relationship was already broken to pieces. I had no intention of cheating. I remember accepting that I am actually about to cheat was strongly linked to the emotional state I was in and to the fact that I have been cheated on so many times in the past, that the pleasure of being wanted won over principles.

– After being faithful for 6 yrs and unsatisfied, he didn’t just cheat; he was having an affair for over a year.

– I found out he had been cheating for the entirety of our 12-year relationship. I knew that cheating on him would completely destroy him as he knew it’s something I would never do. I wanted to break him like he broke me.

– The relationship was basically over and he had been sleeping around on me.

– I needed emotional support after I found out he was cheating on me. I figured “what’s good for the goose, etc,” but realized I was wrong.

3.I Cheated To End The Relationship

Whether you’re talking about men or women cheating, sometimes it seems like the best way to get out of a relationship. Of course, breaking up is hard to do, but we recommend talking about it. Infidelity should be a last resort.

– Because he was busy getting drunk with his friends and I wanted him to leave me.

– Because he didn’t pay attention to me, my needs and feelings. But I wasn’t strong enough to break up with him.

– I wasn’t happy in my relationship and didn’t know how to break it off.

– They wouldn’t let me break up with them.

– I wanted to break up with him eventually (so went out with a bang, quite literally).

– My partner hadn’t touched me in several years, making me feel unattractive and undesirable.  I was 37 years old at the time and assumed that part of my life must be over. I cheated because someone made me feel wanted and desirable again.

– Because I wanted him to leave and he wouldn’t.

– I wanted to leave but I knew he would guilt me and talk me out of it. Cheating is a one-way ticket out.

– Was done with the relationship but didn’t know how to tell him.

– I developed stronger feelings for someone else and was scared to tell my current boyfriend for fear of how he’d react.

– He wouldn’t break up with me and wouldn’t let me break up with him but also wouldn’t have sex with me.

– It was my ex-husband! We had been married for 13 years and the relationship was not working. Fighting every day, lots of possessiveness and we both were not happy. It was not good for the kids! I had asked for a divorce and he refused. So I deliberately planned that he would find out about it! We did get divorced, kids went on to score incredible marks at the end-of-year exams!! My ex met his ‘soulmate.’ So all in all, it needed to happen!

4.Cheating Turns Me On

If you’ve never cheated, it might be hard not to judge the cheating wives and girlfriends who do it just because there’s a risk they could be taught. To these women, cheating is a real turn-on. Of course, there are plenty of ways to turn a woman on without involving cheating!

– I love sneaking around.

– Not getting caught was exciting.

– It turns me on having to cheat and hide it. Even more when you have sex somewhere that if you get caught you get in problems.

– The thrill of getting caught.

– I was young and it was exciting.

– For forbidden sex!

– Because I felt like seducing and it excites me.

– Insecurity about the relationship. Wanting something forbidden.

– Getting something that doesn’t belong to you.

– (We were arguing bad and) fucking someone else then coming home to fuck my man was just a turn-on.

5.I Needed More Sex

Some women who cheat do get sex at home, they just want more. This might be a pretty selfish reason why women cheat. But it just goes to that that while some women want to increase their sex drives, others struggle with their sex drive being too high!

– I can’t get enough dick.

– Not getting what I need at home.

– My great libido and preference for multiple and new partners.

– He wasn’t as sexually driven as me.

– High sex drive and he has a very very low sex drive and has no interest in sex.

– Because one partner cannot satisfy me.

– I’m currently cheating on my spouse. I have so much free time and my husband’s sex drive is nothing close to mine. My husband is also not very experienced. My current sex partner (ex from college) easy, fun the best sex I’ve ever had. They are both opposites of each other. Josh is a friend from college who is a hockey player and a bad boy. He loves naughty pictures.

6.My Partner Struggled To Physically Perform Sex

Sometimes the reason why married women cheat is frustrating for both partners. Specifically, a man’s difficulty performing in the bedroom due to mental or medical issues can do a number on his and her self-esteem. This leads to issues such as the woman cheating if both partners don’t agree that sex is important to the relationship or try to work around the issue.

– He no longer can keep a hardon and is only about himself. He doesn’t try to make it all about me.

– He can’t have sex due to a medical condition and thinks it’s not important in a relationship. I disagree.

– Older Husband not interested in sex for over 10 years, tried everything and ended up by total chance meeting someone in a similar situation.

– Because due to spinal injuries his penis doesn’t stay erect, and sex with him is boring, and I have to pretend to come, so he can wank himself. I needed a guy with a nice-sized dick.

– The guy that I cheated on was having trouble staying hard (due to drug use) and in the words of Cardi B: “look, I need a hard hitter, I need a deep stroke.” lol.

– He couldn’t fuck me properly due to a bad back & leg.

– He is unable to perform sex.

– He couldn’t get hard and wasn’t interested in my orgasm. He lasted less than a minute, came and then pulled out leaving me aroused, alone, and unsatisfied.