My girlfriend works at a university, and she has a public phone number you can write with questions about university stuff. She just told me that she, and her female co-workers, are sick of constantly dealing with texts of guys that want hook ups and treat them like hookers, literally texting just to ask if they are up to have casual sex. Or just texting saying "you have great tits, you should show them to me"

They've put complaints at work and apparently the university is going to launch an investigation, so that's great, but it's honestly sickening to see.

And yes, every single one of my female friends has a sexual harassment story. (Some of them even sexual assault). So I understand why so many women are so weary of dealing with men. I sometimes get upset/sad when I realize that at first, all girls I hang out with, assume I want something with them. I sometimes get upset cause I try to be upfront with everyone and say that I'm in a committed relationship (11 years) and have no interest in other women. So it's upsetting when, even with that, most girls still are weary of hanging out just the two of us, or of me trying to be friendly.

But I get it. Not all men, I know, but enough men lie and say "we are just friends" until the moment the girl is drunk or vulnerable. Enough men play the "nice guy" card and then get upset because "women don't go for the good men". Enough men act like allies and then make rape jokes, a guy I used to know actually told my girlfriend "wow you really are trusty, you fell asleep at the party, and with your mouth wide open! hahaha".

I get it. I may be a little sad of not being trusted right away, but I totally understand that it's a reaction to the way men treat women in general.

I wish the world would change faster, and I want to help and do my part. I don't stay quiet. I yell at my friends when they harrass women (I actually fought with a group of "friends" when they created a group to share pictures of their friends in bikinis, stolen from facebook or whatever).

I hope one day things change, cause if I ever have a daughter it'll break my heart thinking "so, how will I prepare her for a world that will try to blame her when, not if, she's sexually harrased." I just don't know.