Erotic spanking is now so ubiquitous to sex that there’s a good chance that even you, dear reader, have experienced it – and it’s no surprise why. Spanking and sex go together so well because it’s a great way to inject a bit of playful pain into an intimate experience, and vary the array of sensations that are on offer.
Why Do We Spank During Sex?
Firstly, this is the easiest way to experience BDSM games for the first time; all you need is one hand, one buttock, and some momentum applied to your hand (aiming is also necessary, as no one likes to be slapped on the tailbone). Secondly, it is almost risk-free; we can't even imagine what kind of serious harm a gentle pat or caress could cause. The worst-case scenario is that before you get back to the main topic, the other person will look at you with a "What the hell is this?" expression.
However, apart from the feeling of relief, the real reasons behind spanking vary from person to person, because hey, we are all a mixture of crazy types.
Some people spank others to gain a sense of dominance, while others do it to be dominated and accept it, and still others do it just to add a bit of fun. Both parties can enjoy this pleasure - because it is a two-way process - but the prerequisite is to follow the appropriate spanking etiquette, such as:
Strikes should be focused on the lower, meatier part of the cheeks and upper thighs
Follow every spank with a light caress of the slapped area
Don’t slap hard enough to leave a hand imprint – unless permission is given
Make sure to remove jewelry like rings and bracelets
Okay, so your rings are removed and you know where to aim, but what now? Well, you’re ready to begin, so have your spanking subject get in the proper spanking position;
You (the spanker), sit on the bed with your knees over the side, just as you would a chair
Your partner (the spankee) then lies stomach-down across your lap
Otherwise, you can have them assume an all-fours position while you stand to the side
From either of these vantage points, you’ve got the perfect amount of room to get an arc with your good spankin’ arm, as well as enjoy the view.
Implements of Posterior Punishment
Your Hand
The classic spanking tool, literally passed down through the generations. We’ve all got them (unless you don’t, in which case sorry), and they’re practically made for spanking, as you can most accurately control the intensity of your blows.
Paddle
The humble paddle is widely available in a number of materials like wood, metal or leather to vary the sensations, and offer a much more assertive slap then the hand. Don’t start a spanking session by going straight to the paddle; build up the tension with some hand slaps before moving on to this tool.
Whips and Floggers
There are as many varieties of whips in the world as there are bums for them to be slapped across, each offering a different type of sting. The length of the whip and they type and texture of the material it’s made with all play a part in the final experience you’ll have, so if you’re buying one to use on a partner, only do so if it’s one you’d have used on you in turn.
Top Tips for Tukus Taps
Start Soft
Begin with a bottom massage of gentle strokes and soft tickling of their butt cheeks before going in for your opening salvo of spanks. This will up the anticipation of the first strike and the jolt from soft to stinging will have their full attention.
Mind Your Aim, Gents
Aim a spank low and center, at the crease where cheek meets thigh; the vibrations from your strike will stimulate her genitals.
More Cushion (but Not for Pushin’)
If you have your spanking subject lying face-down over your knee or on the bed, prop their bottom up with a pillow placed under their tummy. It will help you aim your hand, and provide some shock absorption for the recipient of the spank.
Have a Ball (or Two)
Add some amazing vibrations to the spanking experience by having a female spankee wear vibrating Ben Wa balls during her playful punishment. Each strike will cause the balls to jiggle around and perfectly mix some pleasure with the pain.
Have you got any tips of your own that you didn’t see here? Tell us in the comments section below!