Code Red

Sexual escapades shouldn't screech to a halt for a week just because of your period. In fact, period sex can be AMAZING – there are lots of benefits and relatively few drawbacks. Sure, it can be messy, but we have a great solution for that problem. And, if you work past stigmas, tame your embarrassment, and embrace the natural wonders, you’ll discover why saying “Yes!” to period sex is so satisfying. Join us as we explore the ups and downs of the Red Moon. 

Dripping Drawbacks

Once upon a time, I had never engaged in sexual activity during menstruation. When I was in my twenties, I thought that all men would be disgusted by menstruation. Years passed, and things changed. Of course, some people were hesitant about this "red tide", but others were completely unmoved. In fact, there was a man who excitedly obtained the "red wings" (he had so eloquently called it). Haha. We tried having sex in the shower, but it wasn't comfortable. The towel was no better. The towel couldn't protect the surface beneath it, and it didn't feel soft either. Even with the towel, my blood still splattered everywhere.

I think most people encounter the same problems during their menstrual periods. We worry that the blood will stain the fabrics, and it's very difficult to clean it off from bedding and furniture, leaving it everywhere. There is both a sense of shame and potential embarrassment. (Yes, I've read "The Red Tent". I'm glad that we no longer isolate women because of menstruation. However, I don't quite accept free bloodletting, mainly because it's simply not practical.)

You might be worried about bacteria and such. If you are worried, using a condom is certainly a good idea. Or, don't lick the vagina. Maybe you think this is disgusting or wrong. If you really feel uncomfortable, then don't lick the vagina (this applies to both men and women).

Menstruation also enhances physical and emotional sensitivity, which can sometimes be a good thing and sometimes unbearable. I used to cry the day before my period every month, and I also suffered from migraines. Now, I've noticed that my cervix has become very sensitive. Intense and deep insertions are very painful, so I prefer to insert slowly during my period.

You might be worried about additional pain or the onset of menstruation (which is a common side effect when the body secretes hormones to remove the uterine lining). From a biological perspective, many things can happen. So, what about the baby?