I have noticed that too much of our language and concepts related to sex imply that "fast is good and slow is bad". This is of no help in creating a wonderful sexual experience. People should have relaxed, relaxed and opened their hearts, but they are forced to quickly arouse their sexual desire and experience intense sexual experiences. If there is anything that hinders the arousal of sexual desire, let alone truly enjoying sexual intercourse, it is stress.

For instance, recently added to our sexual vocabulary are "sexual accelerator" and "sexual brake", where "accelerator" indicates good, while "brake" indicates bad. Now I understand that the underlying intention behind these words is to distinguish what is beneficial for your sexual life and what will hinder it. But why use words that imply something is good when it's fast and bad when it's slow? Why not use words like "enhancer" and "depressor"? Or, in my usual and inspiring style, use words that make you "mmm" and "mmm" to express it.

What is less obvious is that people often have a speed-based concept of sex. Take the concept of sexual desire as an example. "High sexual desire" is usually considered to be those who quickly arouse sexually, while "low sexual desire" is considered to be those who take longer to be sexually aroused. Of course, those with "low sexual desire" are regarded as the problem. Why? Because they are too slow. This often leads to those with slower speeds having sex before they are ready, just as I said before, it's like eating uncooked food - the food itself is not the problem, it's just not ready to be eaten yet.

However, just like food, sexual intimacy is best savoured slowly, with full attention and careful appreciation of the experience of the act. It should not be consumed in a rush, like gobbling down a meal. Or, for any other pleasurable activities you engage in together, such as walking or watching a performance - you should enjoy the process of the activity, rather than rushing through it!

Therefore, whether it is the preparation for sex or the actual act of sex, proceed slowly, enjoy the process, and don't be under any pressure! Remember, the meaning of sex lies in establishing connection through pleasure, so make sure every part is filled with pleasure and connection. What matters is not what you do, but how you do it and how you experience it.

The pace of modern life is already so fast. Let go of the stress, especially in the bedroom, and simply enjoy your sex. You will find it more pleasurable, more intimate, and more energetic - that's how sex should be!