A man's sexual ability is like fire - it comes quickly, but it also fades away quickly and goes out quickly; while a woman's sexual ability is like water: it takes longer to heat up, but once it gets hot, it will boil, boil, boil... Women's

The warmer the water is, the more she will be able to open up and be ready for sex. If she enters the sexual act with cold water or even frozen energy, it will take a lot of effort to warm it up. She may either resist the sexual act or it will take a very long time for her to warm up, to the point where either both or one of them gives up before she has a chance to react; or else, she may take the initiative to participate without being ready and won't enjoy the experience.

So, the common scene for modern couples is as follows: busy couples, working hard during the day, and then having to take care of children, do housework, handle work brought home, etc. or spending several hours in front of the TV watching people being murdered and dismembered on the morgue table, and only realizing about sex when they go to bed late at night... Well, it's not surprising that she isn't interested; her water energy is as cold as ice. (In fact, this situation also causes many men to be unable to ignite their fire energy, but that's another story.)

My feeling is that the reason why women have a strong sexual desire is not because they possess the masculine fire energy, but because they maintain a strong water energy. (Although some people mainly have the opposite sexual energy.) "Maintaining her water energy in a strong state" means that the woman and her partner will do certain things to keep her sexually open and interested.

Too many people believe that a strong sexual desire means having a strong and spontaneous sexual urge, being always ready for it and longing for it. This is possible, but if you wait for both people to ignite their desires at the same time, it might take a very long time...

In the early stages of a relationship, women tend to have a stronger desire. This is simply because all the necessary conditions are in place to keep her passion burning! They are full of anticipation, always thinking about their new partner. They act their best, treat each other well, and they pay attention to their appearance, words and behavior. It's so exciting!

But as time went by, they became complacent. There was no expectation, no effort to make themselves stand out in the other's eyes. Nothing could "heat up" a woman's water energy (and usually nothing could ignite a man's fire energy either).

A woman's desires are often influenced by the environment, rather than just by physical urges. This largely depends on her feelings and what is happening around her.

A woman should "keep her body temperature moderate", and the following four points need to be followed:

She mustn't be too tired. Fatigue can kill a woman's emotions.

She needs to be in a pleasant environment, a place that makes her feel warm, safe and emotional.

She needs to feel good about herself, attractive, charming, and

She needs to get along well with her partner.

Some of these factors she can focus on herself, while others depend on the interaction between her and her partner.

The good news is that this is a positive feedback loop - the more these four factors improve, the stronger the sexual desire becomes, the better the sexual response is, and thus the quality of life and the quality of sexual life will also be enhanced!