When it comes to "sex being supreme", what comes to your mind? Is it about enabling your partner to experience an intense and thrilling climax? Is it about creating precious and enduring memories in bed? Or is it about creating a complete romantic story, from the initial temptation, to the teasing and tantalizing pleasure of touching your partner, all the way to the moment of climax? Maybe all of the above. No matter what your ideal definition of a wonderful sex life is, we hope to help you achieve great success in the realm of sex, because having a wonderful sex life can enhance your confidence and satisfaction.

Although we cannot offer all the suggestions, we are sure to guide you in the right direction. So let's get started!

Why should one be good at having sex?

So, why is it important to be skilled at having sex? What are the benefits? If you are single and only want to get pleasure through masturbation, then this might not mean much to you. You enjoy the climax, take a short break, and then look forward to having sex again. However, as John Donne pointed out hundreds of years ago, "No man is an island."

We are interconnected and interdependent. You may inevitably long to establish connections with others, and perhaps even desire to share that pleasant feeling. You might even find yourself prioritizing their needs, wanting to please them and seeing them happy. This strengthens and consolidates our connections with others, allowing you to experience a kind of love that you could never have felt alone.

What causes a person to have a strong sexual desire?

Now that we have introduced to you the benefits of sexual skills, what exactly makes someone's sexual skills so excellent? Although we assume that sexual skills refer to partner sex, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being alone. First, being skilled at solo sex can enhance your experience each time you masturbate; second, it can train you to strive to improve your sexual skills with your partner. But now, let's assume that you want to make others feel good, then in their eyes, you are a sexual expert.

Have you noticed that the taste of hot dogs gets much better at sports events, or that drinking beer is more satisfying at live concerts? Try replicating this kind of happiness by using the same brands and ingredients, alone at home on a rainy day. You might find the result not bad, but it's far from being satisfactory. Why is that? Is it because of the hot dogs and beer themselves? Isn't it? Some might say it's a matter of TPO (time, place and occasion).

At the right time and in the right environment, it will trigger all the emotional memories you have accumulated over the years related to it, including the good (or bad) times, as well as all the material anchors associated with them. It can be very personal, and perhaps only you can truly understand the specific feelings related to certain events. Perhaps this is why special festivals like Christmas can bring joy and excitement to some people, while to others it can be depressing.

It might be a good idea to have a chat with your partner and find out what they like, the parts they enjoy being touched on, and what kinds of romantic scenarios can excite them. When the right time, place and occasion arise, allowing you to enjoy a "sexy time", it becomes even more important to have this information at your fingertips.

But as many of us have learned from our own experiences, merely talking to your partner won't allow you to uncover all the truths. They might even not be fully aware of what they like. Observing, listening, and understanding your partner's reactions are also key to comprehension. Just like in the case of the hot dog, you might ask them questions such as where they imagine the ideal place for making love to be, what the surrounding environment is like, what the time is, what the background noise is like, and so on. "Being good at sex" takes time. It's an act of love, but the rewards are also very substantial. So, don't give up!