Vagina, clitoris or pretence. You can fully enjoy it, or pretend that the orgasm is so realistic that you will temporarily be alone. How many tears were shed, how many moans, screams, depression and lies for such a simple thing? This is as natural as life itself. In an unforgettable "Seinfeld", Elaine confessed to Jerry that during their relationship, she pretended to have every orgasm. "It wasn't your fault, I just didn't reach it at that time," she explained. Of course, the next thing was the man's obsession with his own sexual ability (his pitiful, wounded self-esteem!) 。 "It's easier for them", "We need more time", "We don't always manage to do it"...... Nonsense! Distraction, guilt, shame, fear, and a lack of understanding of our own happiness and body; that's why we waste time re-enacting the scenes from "When Harry Met Sally" instead of enjoying the truly thrilling and intoxicating "little dead people", experiencing the vivid pleasure. Yes, the climax is plural - enjoy it to the fullest as long as your body can handle it.

What is multiple orgasm?

Multiple orgasms refer to the occurrence of multiple sexual climaxes in the same stimulation process or during the same sexual act. Although multiple orgasms are more common in women, they can also occur in men. Masters and Johnson, in a pioneering study on human sexual responses, outlined the various stages of sexual arousal: the arousal phase, the plateau phase, the orgasm phase, the decline phase, and the refractory period. The refractory period only occurs in men and refers to the recovery time needed for erections to resume after ejaculation.

Women do not have a refractory period. Although their genitals may become highly sensitive, causing discomfort from stimulation. The orgasm may also make you feel extremely relaxed and satisfied. To be honest, you might even not want to continue. Perfect. But you should know that if sexual arousal still exists after a woman's orgasm, then the next orgasm may indeed follow.

Some sexologists have distinguished between multiple orgasms and continuous orgasms. Multiple orgasms refer to the situation where stimulation continues after the first orgasm, and then multiple orgasms occur subsequently. Continuous orgasms, on the other hand, refer to the presence of a brief interval between two orgasms. Leaving aside the technical details, before delving deeper into the topic, we must first make a clarification. Experts assure us that for men, ejaculation and orgasm do not always have to occur simultaneously. It is precisely this ability to reach orgasm without ejaculation that allows men to enjoy multiple continuous orgasms while skipping the refractory period (see Stinson's Sex Adventure).

The secret to achieving multiple orgasms

You may not be able to make the same kind of barbecue as your mother, but if you buy the same ingredients and follow the same steps, you can get closer to success. From then on, everything depends on practice. This is not a mathematical formula.

Understand your body

According to a 2019 study by the Swedish sexual health brand LELO, 76% of women reach orgasm during masturbation. However, when they engage in sexual intercourse, this percentage drops to 46%. Is this important? Very important. The key lies in understanding your body, exploring gently, and precisely knowing what you like, the way you like it, and the parts you like. This is crucial for both solo or partnered sexual experiences. This also leads to our next suggestion.

Combining different types of stimuli

Try different ways, rhythms and intensities of caressing (and here, sex toys come in handy). Combine clitoral stimulation (which is essential) with vaginal and anal penetration, nipple caressing... There are also some positions that can help couples achieve multiple orgasms. "Superdrug's Online Doctor" is a British website specializing in sexual health. According to them, the positions ranked in order of preference are: the woman on top (with the body on top to control the pressure and movement of the clitoris); the missionary position (at this time, it is very important to keep the body closely attached so as to stimulate the clitoris); rear entry; 69 position; and the prone position (prone, with the abdomen touching the bed for insertion).

Clitoral suction cup: Ensures success

This is nothing new, but the clitoral suction cup is very effective in helping you reach orgasm. Sex therapists even use it to treat lack of sexual orgasm. Take a look at its different intensities, stop at the right moment, take a deep breath, and then put it back on the clitoris. Combine the suction cup with caressing, oral sex, and penetration, and don't let the excitement fade.