A question that LELO gets asked a LOT is this: If I use a sex toy before I have sex, am I still a virgin?

Short answer: 

Yes, you are.

Explanation:

If you have used sex toys, does that mean you haven't lost your virginity? No, you haven't. But perhaps the reason is not what you expected. No, having a solo masturbation session before any sexual contact, whether or not you use sex toys, does not count as losing your virginity. At least, according to any traditional definition, this does not count as losing your virginity because traditional definitions usually include the insertion of the penis into the vagina. But here is the honest answer:

No, you haven't lost your virginity because virginity doesn't exist.

We were just... fabricating it. This is something we constructed in order to commercialize our products or categorize our sexual orientations. When I say "we ourselves", I mainly mean "women".

As a fragmented and distorted society, we place such great emphasis on female chastity that it is truly cruel. We use it to measure purity, innocence, and many other senseless and terrifying concepts with no inherent value.

However, according to our distorted social standards, the situation for men is exactly the opposite. Chastity is something that needs to be abandoned as soon as possible so that we can continue to seize women's chastity. The gender balance clearly tilts towards men. The relationship between the two sexes regarding chastity is completely opposite: boys are under the pressure of losing their chastity, while girls are under the pressure of maintaining their chastity. It's truly a miracle that we can still have sexual intercourse, considering that we ourselves have fabricated so much nonsense about sexual psychology.

Judging each other based on whether they have had sexual intercourse is truly strange. In my humble opinion, this is the most stupid and meaningless way we can categorize each other. This is the lowest common standard. It makes no sense: if you consider sex as a physical activity with a partner, then you can definitely judge a person by whether they have played tennis or not. There is no shame before or after playing tennis. Why is it only related to sex?

It is easy to prove that this is a social fiction: because it does not exist anywhere else in nature. Our closest relatives, such as chimpanzees, the great apes, do not emphasize chastity or abstinence. In any other place, women would not be excluded or marginalized because of having had sexual intercourse. The veil of purity we have created for ourselves is unique to humans. From a biological perspective, it may have encouraged the impulse for monogamy. But from a social perspective, it is an extremely useful tool for men to manipulate women into having sex. In fact, it is said that chastity is a social construct, created by those men who believe that their penises can change a woman's identity, or at least her value.

For those who are worried about whether they are still a virgin after masturbation, my advice is: completely abandon the idea that a virgin state has any intrinsic value, because it has no value at all. If you plan to engage in sexual activity at some point, masturbation, whether using sex toys or not, can actually help you mentally and physically prepare for sex.

If you notice that your partner is concerned about whether you are a virgin, give them your sex toys and let them masturbate.