Ah, those sounds of sexual intercourse, oh, oh, yes, yes, yes!

The sexual scenes in movies and TV shows usually depict couples roaring, panting, and moaning in passion until reaching the climax. Of course, pornographic films also elevate these "ooos" to a mythical level, but what about reality? Whether it's sneaking into one's parents' home under the cover of darkness, or keeping it a secret from roommates in a shared apartment, or becoming a parent, etc., often times, silent sex is actually the only form of sex that can be truly achieved.

Is the unrestrained roaring during sex merely the liberation of screaming allowed in the midst of pleasure?

Unless you live in a soundproof mansion, it's very difficult to have enough space and freedom to scream loudly and reach sexual climax.

Is noisy sex better?

Did we miss out on the best sex because we kept silent?

Let's not get too upset about the ongoing sexual activity...

The allure of silent sex

The feeling of being restrained is truly extremely sexy. Maybe you have roommates, children, or elderly relatives, and just don't have a quiet space to have sex. While being in a passionate state, you also have to keep the pleasant moans at the lowest level, breathing so rapidly that you can hardly be heard. This stimulation itself enhances the desire. One hand covers your lips to suppress your involuntary screams to avoid disturbing others... Oh, yes. You have to change positions to avoid the headboard hitting the wall, awkward angles, and quiet giggles... A potential eavesdropper knows exactly what you are doing, and this feeling is just too naughty.

I believe that most of us have experienced this feeling at some point in our lives. So when will we be able to feel truly free and be able to let out our emotions freely? Does this mean that our sex life will be better?

When will you be able to truly let out some sexual sounds?

For some people, the anonymity of a hotel room can provide a safe space where they can freely express their primal voices, let go of themselves, cast aside all restraints, and roar with abandon. For others, it's the opposite. They worry that if strangers discover that the Smiths next door were sloppily dressed on the weekend, it might make them unusually quiet. Or perhaps you enjoy the thrill of showing off. Maybe you never need to make a lot of noise at all.

In our erotic films, the models are usually allowed to freely express themselves through their voices. In fact, some of them are completely unable to control themselves. Maybe you think this will bring your real-life sexual experiences into the realm of the performance, or perhaps you need your partner's "cooing" and "whining" sounds to let you know that you are doing it right. It can become the seal of approval for your actions.

A large amount of evidence shows that humans enjoy watching others engage in sexual activities, which can provide a great deal of sexual stimulation. Visual pornography has thus become very popular. But what if we have the opportunity to increase the volume and experience a truly immersive sexual experience? Listening to ASMR with headphones can make one's spine shiver and enhance the depth of sexual desire - especially when guided by the sound. For example, if someone is talking about how they masturbate while masturbating, a transition occurs: the sound heard is like someone consciously talking about how they masturbate, emitting pleasant sounds and sharing their feelings. It's more like a "performance" than a "telling" action. In this wonderful and truly thrilling film about the real climax and pleasure, Luna tells us about her masturbation scene, from alluring whispers to wild and unrestrained release of the climax, and the entire process is so wonderful.

Why do women make sexual sounds?

The louder you shout, the faster we go!

There is an electronic stimulation product with a voice control mode. You can control the stimulation probe through voice. As you scream louder, the current will also become stronger. Personally, I think this is a very sexy way to propose. It's like going to an amusement park to ride the highest and fastest rides... The louder you scream!

What if the sounds you make in passion are completely unconscious? Several people told me that when they have an orgasm, they experience a kind of uncontrollable throat sound. A kind of moaning that comes from the depths of the primitive, like a muddy sound.

We often cannot control our bodies to respond, especially when it comes to something as natural as happiness. Moreover, since we often feel the need to suppress these outbursts or reactions, making loud noises in bed makes us feel ashamed.

A study conducted over a decade ago indicates (we need to commission some new research!), that making noise during sex is mainly a "strategy" used by women to urge their partners to finish quickly after the act... In fact, 66% of women will make moaning sounds to hasten the end of the sex! The study also shows that making noise during sex is not a physiological need, nor is it a reaction to orgasm.

So I changed my perspective and began to think about the grunting sounds made during sports and other physical activities. I remember in the 1990s, Monica Seles made grunting and roaring sounds during the Wimbledon tournament, which surprised the tennis fans. It was truly unusual to hear such sounds in a usually orderly and regulated competition. She even was criticized by the referee for using tricks in the 1992 final. I think Jimmy Connors and John McEnroe had been making grunting sounds for a long time, but a woman being so unrestrained always causes big trouble. To prove Monica's innocence, it turned out that releasing grunting sounds actually has scientific basis. It indicates that the greater the strength, the greater the possibility of making a roar! In fact, the strength increased by 12%. The research also shows that grunting is more effective in distracting the opponent. So Monica and others might have confused the two. Now, in sports, everyone makes grunting sounds! Sports research shows that holding back from making a snore during explosive or intense exercise actually consumes energy in the wrong place. This endurance will undermine the effect of the exercise. Suppose the same should be true during sexual intercourse in bed... So, if we let go and make a grunting sound during orgasm, we might assume that the intensity of the sexual climax would increase by at least 12%!

More importantly, the unrestrained moaning sounds you make might actually excite your partner... They might want to improve their performance and encourage more roaring!

The primal scream is our most fundamental and powerful form of vocal expression. It is not that kind of coherent vulgar speech, nor is it that kind of erotic whisper where you want others to treat you or what you want to do. Instead, it is the convergence and fusion of the most basic elements of your body - the brain is completely detached from consciousness.

When silence becomes the loudest roar

Soft moans can encourage your partner, letting them know that they are doing something very enjoyable. But at the same time, we know that sometimes, if your lover is completely still, that is another signal. No matter what you do, don't stop!

"For God's sake, don't stop to ask me if this is good. Believe me, if I remain silent, that will be fine!"

Uncontrollable sighs and murmurs can indeed add a touch of sensuality to the sexual experience, and allowing oneself and the body to release these feelings can truly bring about liberation. But just like everything in the realm of sex, it's your body, your experience! There is no so-called "correct method". We are merely encouraging you to try.

The moans in the pornographic film

Anna from Frolicme, who produces erotic films, is no stranger to sexual noises. Usually, the volume of the sound is entirely dependent on the individual model. I know that Frolicme likes to showcase real erotic sexual scenes, and many of their films focus on the natural pleasure of sex. So I asked Anna if during the filming process, she needed to encourage the models to increase or decrease the volume.

Over the years, I have noticed that people have very different interpretations of the sounds of sexual activity. There are many factors contributing to this, including cultural background and personal preferences, which all influence the way people express pleasure. I have learned that there is no universal standard for what the sounds of sexual activity should be like or what the appropriate volume should be. For me, what matters is that they are genuine and natural for each individual.

I should also say that listening is also a very personal matter. But for those who dislike certain people's sexual sounds, yes, I sometimes receive comments about the sounds of models. We need to remember that these are not the sounds we need to regulate. We are all just eavesdropping voyeurs.

Furthermore, the louder the volume, the less direct it is associated with pleasure. I have noticed that some models are inherently louder, and I need to be aware of this; while some models may be quieter, this is actually their personal preference. The true enjoyment is what matters the most. They are natural responses to sexual arousal, which help with communication and confirmation of the pleasure given and received.

Some people draw sexual cues and acquire new knowledge from pornographic films. Therefore, in a noisy sexual encounter, it is essential to maintain balance and set a realistic "normal" standard. We may all have learned to suppress the natural secretion of the mouth in order to consider the surrounding environment. But at least once, let's truly release it, wouldn't that be wonderful!