Since launching the "Better Sex" blog and positioning myself as a sex educator and life coach, the most frequently asked question by men is how they can achieve longer-lasting sex. There are many methods, and we will discuss them one by one. But first, I want you to know that the insertion of the penis into the vagina is only a small part of sex. It has much more, and just this knowledge alone can put you far ahead of those who are persistent but don't know what they are doing.

Let's put it this way: lesbian women don't even have penises, and lesbian sex is one of the best sexual experiences I have ever had. The best sexual experiences I have had include long preparations, teasing, foreplay, conversation, massage, oral sex, finger and toy-based passionate sex, rest time for hugs and caresses, looking into each other's eyes, breathing each other's air, and then we get excited and start again. The problem is not that you can't last, but that you view the male orgasm as the end, the most important part. That's where the problem lies.

The next time you want to have sex but are worried about not being able to last, I hope you completely remove the penis from the interaction. Don't allow insertion. Everything else is about them. Use your mouth, hands, toys and language to make them reach orgasm (preferably more than once), and understand that the best sex is about connection, power and intimacy, not just the insertion into the vagina.

I also want to reiterate that most women don't want to last for several hours. I prefer long warm-ups and then 5-10 minutes of actual penetrative sex. You'll be surprised at how long that moment feels. My long-term sex sometimes hurt in the past, but when I look back at the content I created, I usually ask them to ejaculate after 5-10 minutes of penetrative sex. At that point, I'm already ready for hugs and snacks, haha. The duration of an average penis is just this much, which is convenient. So if you are at this level, stop worrying about whether you are premature, you are not.

If you want to prolong the sex time, not because of a lack of security, but because you want a longer sex time, then I have some suggestions for you. These suggestions have helped my partner prolong the sex time, so you can also try them and see if they work.

Edgeplay; Edgeplay refers to the practice where when you are close to reaching climax, you stop for a while. You can stop to kiss your partner, stop for oral sex, change positions, and so on. When you finally reach climax, the sensation will be even more intense, so it's really fun.

Think about something unrelated to sex, such as mathematics or football. This way of distracting yourself can help you last longer.

Having sex a few hours before masturbation

Improving dietary habits and exercising

Take a break, hug, play with toys, engage in oral sex, use your hands, do some quirks, or do something else for a while.

Finally, the most important point: If you ejaculate while she hasn't yet, then continue using toys, hands, or your mouth until she ejaculates. Now, if my partner ejaculates, he will hold me, kiss me, perform oral sex on me, stimulate me with toys, until I ejaculate. This is the biggest progress in our sexual life in the past 9 years. You never know, watching your partner enjoying themselves to the fullest and experiencing another climax again, you might get extremely excited!