When you were a teenager, flipping through the magazines like "Vogue" and "Girly" at the checkout counter of the grocery store, you might have laughed at the advertisements that talked about how to deal with low libido. Sex is so great! You simply can't imagine not having sex for 24 hours a day, and you will never end up in that situation, right?

OK, you might recall those moments and curse your own arrogance, because ten years or even longer have passed, but you still have no idea where your sexual desire has gone. Now, don't panic - here are some possible reasons for this situation and the measures you can take.

Although we may not like to admit it, we are no longer 19 years old, and we will never return to that age. When you focus on the excitement brought by the ups and downs of emotions, it is difficult to remember the beauty that this fact brings (we can drink, our skin finally gets better, and we become more confident).

But in fact, most of us have relatively few concerns about worldly affairs. We might have jobs or go to university, share the rent with five best friends, and mainly eat ramen and tuna. Add to that the constant hormonal bombardment in our brains 24 hours a day shouting "Sex!", along with all kinds of new experiences, and it's not surprising that the focus of our sex life has shifted. Of course, many people still have a lot of sex in their later years, but to make sex a priority in life, perhaps some effort is really needed.

Come on, my love, (re)kindle my fire

Having a partner who understands your inner self - yes, this means being honest with them about your feelings - can be beneficial for you. Perhaps they are more proactive, while you are better at responding. This means that although they might want to get up and be busy for no reason, you might find that you rarely experience this feeling. Instead, you might become anxious when your partner initiates the situation. This is completely normal!

Moreover, although it may sound boring, you might need to make specific plans to determine which nights are suitable for indulging yourself. This is not only about the practical aspects (don't forget to send your children to a babysitter!), but also because reminding yourself of the countdown to a sexual night with sexy text messages can serve as the foreplay you need!

If you think these date nights will put too much pressure on your performance, you might consider redefining some of the terms in your "sex" dictionary. Who says sensual massage isn't "sexual" enough for you? Or mutual masturbation? As long as you feel satisfied, there's no need to measure yourself against what others consider a "good" sex life.

What's wrong, doctor?

Of course, if your usually high sexual desire drops from 60% to 0% in a short period of time, it is definitely worth consulting your doctor. This is especially true if you start taking any new medication. Sexual activity is an integral part of your overall health, although bringing it up might make you feel embarrassed. But it may not only indicate potential problems, and if it's related to prescription drugs, you can explore more suitable solutions that fit your lifestyle!