If you plan to experience group sex this summer, you might be looking for something larger than just two people! From wife swapping, sex clubs, group sex, group intimacy, group sex parties, carnivals, and more - the forms and fantasies of group sex are diverse. Figuring out which aspects of group sex can stimulate your sexual desire can help you find like-minded people and turn your fantasies into reality.
What is your fantasy about group sex?
Taking your group sex fantasy into reality means you have to hone in on what’s hot for you in this fantasy. Is it being the center of attention? Is it about sharing another person?
Explore your group sex fantasy by asking yourself questions like:
Who is in the fantasy? What do they look like? What are their attitudes or vibes like?
Who is doing what to whom?
What things are turning you on to watch or experience?
What would turn you off?
What kind of enjoyment did you bring to the group?
Sometimes when we think about our fantasies about group sex, it’s easy to forget that other people in the group have different needs. These needs might align with our desires or the might be different.
Keep the ‘group’ in group sex with these suggestions:
Think about what skills you’re bringing to the group: are you great at oral? Massages? Dirty talk?
Discuss everyone’s desires beforehand: what is each person most excited about
Discuss everyone’s emotional and physical safety needs beforehand
Warm up to intense pleasure by sexting, sensual touch, dirty talk
Use sex toys: double ended-dildos are great for connecting two holes. Remote or app-controlled sex toys like butt plugs and couples vibrators are great for handing over control to another person. Wand style vibrators are awesome for using between bodies during intercourse
Do you find the communication comfortable?
Group sex brings more bodies—and more emotions and desires. Non-verbal and verbal communication is important to make sure everyone is on the same page through the group sex experience. What will happen if someone is jealous? Loses an erection? Orgasms and wants to leave? Think about what communication needs to happen about issues like:
Safer sex: what condoms, dental dams, or gloves will be used and between who?
Boundaries: are there words, activities, or body parts that have boundaries the group needs to be aware of?
Expectations: what does everyone expect from this experience? What happens after the group sex is over?
Where do you look for group sex?
Here are some places people search for group sex:
Dating apps
Swingers’ websites
Sex clubs and bath houses
Friend group
Sex parties