For my whole-ass adult life I’ve heard women complain about bad-in-bed men who couldn’t find their clits. Nor do I have any reason do disbelieve that that the state of sexual education in the USA is deplorable, and that men in general suck at asking for directions. Therefore I’ve taken it aboard as a truth about the universe: there must be a lot of men out there who can’t find a clitoris. But… seriously? My sample size is not enormous, but the clit has always been right there for me, a featured promontory on the map of a woman’s body whenever I reached for it, hard to miss whether I looked with my fingers or my eyes and lips. My unconsidered conclusion has always been that men who didn’t find it are dumbfucks, so paralyzed by sexual shame or blinded by such a complete lack of regard for female pleasure that they just didn’t really try very hard at all.