I have had the most intimate conversations about sexual life with hundreds of heterosexual men. I always asked them what they liked most in sexual encounters. Do you know the answer?

If you hold an old-fashioned view on sex, believing that "men have their own needs", and thinking that they are merely animals who need sexual climax to obtain pleasure, then you might say: Sexual climax.

But that's not the case. Apart from a few outright jerks, all the men I talked to told me that their favorite kind of sex was when their partner was happy. Exactly: the happier she was, the happier he was...

This makes perfect sense, because women have a greater potential for sexual response than men. Men's sexual response area is somewhat limited, especially if you view sex as just the activity of the penis - the duration of the penis's activity is limited and usually only leads to one orgasm, and then it's over. However,

Women can be persistent. Women can truly reach the pinnacle in terms of sex. When a woman reaches the pinnacle in terms of sex, she will take her partner along with her.

So, it makes sense that men enjoy pleasing themselves during sex - they do it for their own pleasure!

However, many women find it hard to believe this. I have encountered many couples sitting on the sofa. The man would say: "Yes, I hope she enjoys sex. If she doesn't enjoy it, I won't enjoy it either." She would incredulously reply: "No, that's not true. You just want to have sex."

Or the wife might say: "But I have sex with you twice a week. Is there anything wrong with that?" The man would reply: "I'm not asking you to initiate the sex. I want you to do it actively and enjoy it!" Man

He kept telling me over and over again that if she didn't enjoy it, then he wouldn't enjoy it either.

Men are not animals. In that terrible old era, they were, to some extent, forced to do so. Back then, society believed that women lacked sexual desire while men did, so men needed to be "serviced" regularly. It was merely men masturbating inside their wives.

Modern men are more aware that women also have sexual desires. They don't want to act on those desires because it's just masturbation. In fact, it's even worse than masturbation because it makes him feel unloved and unwanted. He may get some physical relief from it, but it could cause emotional harm. True masturbation is much better. Many men would rather masturbate than engage in meaningless and unnecessary obligatory sexual acts.

This is why suggesting that women "do this" or "make sacrifices for the team" will never satisfy either party, because men do not want obligatory sexual acts.

Men desire to be needed. They desire a wonderful sex life. They want her to have fun and will do their utmost to ensure her happiness - this is beneficial for both parties.