The world of sex clubs and parties, which is not a secret, can be quite intimidating to ordinary people. Our fear of what happens there might prevent us from entering and enjoying this world. Therefore, in order to provide some information for those nervous and curious friends, I will introduce some experiences, precautions, and some basic etiquette of such activities.

What are these?

There are various types of sex parties, each with its own focus. Usually, they have different rooms and offer different activities. Where to go and what to do are all up to you. Before deciding whether it suits you or which party suits you, be sure to carefully consider your desires and expectations. Here are the main types I have experienced and their feelings:

Queer Focus:

These are the ones I have visited so far that I consider the favorites. They are usually very inclusive, have a positive attitude towards sexuality, and have a very friendly atmosphere. I like the different rooms as they have different atmospheres. For example, Club Love and Riot Party. Both of these places have performances, and the area settings are also convenient, such as the lounge area, dance floor area, hugging area, and play area.

With a theme of sexual preferences:

for example, Klub Verboten and Torture Garden. The costumes here are great, and I really like this aspect of sexual preferences. They also offer different rooms. However, I think it is indeed a bit overwhelming, and I don't like the music there, and I need to understand everything, which makes me a little scared. But this is just my experience. I know that others also really enjoy these activities.

These activities are mainly themed around swing dance, which is more suitable for swing dance enthusiasts:

many couples with partners also want to come and play. These activities are usually specialized clubs rather than events. I don't like "casual dressing" because I prefer to choose comfortable clothing, and overall, I think the clothing choices here are not diverse enough. Similarly, if you have a partner and like swing dance, then this place is more suitable for you.

I am a polyamorous, queer, and sexual preference enthusiast, so for me, sexual activity events are more about celebrating myself and building connections with like-minded people, rather than simply seeking sex or sexual preference experiences. That's why I think I prefer queer-themed events. As a neurodiverse person, it is also important to monitor the number of people and give me a peaceful space to fully enjoy myself. Everyone is different, so think about what you are looking for and explore different activities to find the one that suits you.

What will happen?

Well, it all depends on you! You can go to the game room to dance, have fun with friends, relax, flirt, or just enjoy yourself to the fullest. Generally speaking, games shouldn't be played outside the game room, so unless you enter those areas, you won't be able to see anything. The priority is to agree. Most places I've been to have (definitely should have, otherwise it's a red flag) patrols, monitoring the number of people, and ensuring the safety of the personnel. You can go and experience having sex in public with your partner, or participate in group fellatio with 10 people! You might get spanked, or you can enjoy the atmosphere there. Generally, single people are not allowed to enter the game room, so you can't look at it lewdly or interrupt the scene. But as for how far you want to go, it's up to you.

Etiquette

Each club has its own set of rules, which can usually be found on their website. So, before going, make sure you are familiar with them. Some clubs encourage or require members to join, and they usually ask a series of questions to determine if you fit their environment. Many of the questions revolve around consent and community. Nevertheless, I have found that most (if not all) of the clubs I have visited have some common rules.

Dress code; Adhering to the dress code is almost a test of whether you follow the rules. It proves that you have read and understood these rules and are willing to make efforts for them. This can also create an overall atmosphere, making everyone wear similar clothing and feel more comfortable.

Photos; Most places do not allow taking photos, or only allow taking photos in specific areas. I didn't know this rule at first, but considering the stigma of sex parties and the negative treatment of participants in certain industries, this rule is also reasonable. Some people may just prefer to be low-key or not want to publicly participate in which parties they like with friends or family.

Game room rules; Most parties do not allow entering the game room without a companion, usually do not allow lurking and watching, nor do they allow solo masturbation, interrupting the scene is also inappropriate.

Consent; Consent is the top priority. Just because you attend a game party does not mean you want to be touched or played with. Do not stare at or touch others without enthusiastic consent. If in doubt, ask. If still in doubt, do not ask.

General etiquette: Pay attention to neural differentiation, ask about pronouns, take safety sex seriously, conduct tests, use condoms and contraceptive pills, in short, don't be too careless. It's okay to be a little worried about making mistakes. People usually like to accept questions and curiosity, but this requires sincere kindness, wanting to do things well, respecting others, so that everyone can have a great time!

OK! These are the basic knowledge of sex parties. I hope these contents can make you no longer feel scared and help you judge whether a sex party is suitable for you / what parties you want to try. Are you an expert in sex parties? Or is it just a beginner for you? Tell me!